1. CONTROL WHAT YOU CAN AND FORGET WHAT YOU CANNOT. Forget about the stuff you have no power over, it’s a waste of time and energy. I am forever telling my eldest son this. Focus on what you can control, the here and now. Life is never going to be easy, but you do not dwell on it. Take control of what you have and make the best of it.
2. KNOW YOUR LIMITS. Set realistic goals and learn to say NO. In layman’s terms, do not bite off more than you can chew. Do not take on a project because you are afraid to say no or you do not want to hurt anyone’s feelings. So many times, I have done this just to be frustrated at myself and resentful towards the person for whom I am doing the favor (dumb, I know). Politely say no.
3. DON’T COMPLAIN, INSTEAD FIND A SOLUTION. Rather than whining and complaining about a particular task, be it an assignment at the office or even something as little as piles of laundry needing washed, take a deep breath, then think about the steps needed to get the job done. Break the task down into manageable steps. Do not allow yourself to get lost in the anger – that’s time consuming and time is precious.
4. LIVE WITH YOUR CHOICES. Choose your path wisely and remember that everything you do is a choice. Do not make excuses and yes, there may be a few poor choices made along the way, a few you may even regret (that may be the story for most of us), but do not dwell on them. They will become a part of the past. Remember every choice you have made so far has got you where you are today.
Living a happy life is a choice. That is what I tell my children often. You can wake up and say, I am going to have a great, happy day today. Or you can choose to not have a great, happy day today and fly solo. The choice is yours.